Is This You?

All mothers and fathers want the best for their baby, and most seek understanding of parenting before the baby even arrives. However, sometimes what parents learn can contradict with instincts causing undue stress. Minimizing stress even before becoming pregnant is helpful, but can't always be avoided. Life in the family, unforeseen events, conflict within your relationships can all contribute to confusion and distress among all the members of your family. See if any of the following scenarios sound familiar to you:

  • You are ambivalent about being pregnant. For whatever reason, financial, or not the right time in your life, or something unique to you, you may find yourself or your partner pregnant unexpectedly. Struggling with what to do, guilty because you aren't as happy as you should be, or just plain resentful are all things you may be feeling.
  • You find yourself worrying about being a mother/father. Suddenly the burden of becoming a parent is looming and you are swamped with fears, pressure, anxiety as well as joy and excitement. You may be terrified with the pending responsibility, or scared that you'll be a terrible parent.
  • You have adopted a baby or toddler. You may have known you would have no trouble falling in love with your new child, but you were unprepared for the issues that come with having an adopted child. You are bewildered and hurt that the process of loving and being loved by your new baby seems so challenging.
  • Your baby doesn't seem to want to be held, or cuddle with you. Why not? Why does he arch his back instead of settle into your arms? Why does he cry to be put down only to cry to be picked up? You can't figure it out, and he certainly doesn't know what he wants…how can you help him?
  • The birth process terrifies you.  Questions swim through your mind, "Will I be a good support for my partner?" or "What if something goes wrong?" The process is inevitable and is supposed to be so profound, and yet you feel so powerless!
  • You and your partner can't agree on anything having to do with being a parent! Whether it's where to have the baby, or where your baby will sleep after it's born, or how to discipline or what to do when Baby cries, it just feels like the two of you are butting heads. He feels nagged and incompetent, you feel controlling and stressed and overwhelmed. Neither of you is finding the support and respect you want from each other.
  • Those mothering instincts haven't kicked in. You're wondering if you are even cut out for this role. Your baby cries, never sleeps, you are exhausted and confused, and wish - with all the feelings of guilt that accompany the thought - that you had an easier baby.

If any of the above scenarios seem familiar I can help you ease the overwhelm and find peace and rhythm with your baby, even before birth. I can help you during pregnancy, labor and birth, and post-partum to learn what makes sense for you as a parent, help you feel connected to your partner, your baby and yourself, and develop peace and confidence as your baby grows.

If you recognize yourself in any of the above scenarios, please don't hesitate to call me now to schedule your free 20 minute initial consultation.  Call 509-293-9530 in the U.S. or email me.

  My approach works for:

  • Expecting parents
  • Couples thinking about having a baby
  • Experienced parents
  • Anyone touched by adoption
  • Premature babies
  • Parents who are experimenting with a new parenting style
  • Young/Teen parents
  • Gay/Lesbian parents
  • Ambivalent Parents
  • Parents who have struggled to have a baby
  • Parents who delivered their baby naturally
  • Parents who had an unexpectedly difficult labor/birth experience

My approach will work for you if you value:

  • Your baby's emotional expression and health
  • Your own emotional expression and health
  • Creating a strong foundation of love and connection for your baby to thrive in
  • Learning and growing
  • Exploring new ideas, and "thinking out of the box."
  • Self-awareness and knowing yourself deeply
  • Living a heart-centered life
  • The innocence, playfulness and wisdom of childhood

To find out more about my approach, click here.