26
January
2007
January
2007
What’s it like for an Adoptee to Search? (click here to share/read comments)
Here's a great post on the blog Mia's Saving Grace about the frustration of closed adoption records. And how it affects adoptees trying to search for their roots.
So, if we open the records, and also consider that the infant that has been relinquished is aware and taking in the experiences involved in the adoption process…can we perhaps move the process forward by making it more respectful of that infant? More conscious? More compassionate and supportive to not only the birth mother, the future adult adoptee and the adoptive parents, but to the BABY?
I think so.
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It’s interesting that, when you ask most adult adoptees, that they still carry this pain of rejection, of knowing that something they couldn’t consent to was done to them. You would think that their voices would have been heard a long time ago.
I agree, and yet, in a culture that doesn’t acknowledge that babies can remember, or that “there’s anyone home” in there at all, how can they acknowledge that babies can CARE about what is being done to them?
A paradigm shift is occuring, which is going to HAVE to influence common practices in birth, adoption, early infant care, and early parenting…
Thanks for your comment, Kate.